Is being successful and single the crime. You would think with all of the emphasis on the fact that Ms. Ronnie Chasen noted Hollywood publicist died as a single and successful woman the media has lost track of the true tragedy.
It has been just over two weeks since the tragic death in Beverly Hills of slain celebrity Publicist Ronnie Chasen. Yesterday while watching HLN's Nancy Grace Show which theme is based on heinous crimes I was insulted by a comment made by anchor Mrs. Jane Valez-Mitchell. Grace was recovering from surgery and Velez-Mitchell was filling in as a guest anchor. There was a discussion and phone call segment surrounding the circumstances of Ms. Chasen tragic homicide.
Many of the calls were as you can imagine about the details and who, what, where and whys of her death. In the midst of the calls a caller asked if she was married or had children. The anchor was suddenly baffled you could hear the doubt and hesitancy in her voice there was also a slight turn of her head. I would venture a guess that this must have been an unconscious move as she listened to the producer in her ear. Suddenly she blurted out, “ she was married a long time ago and has no children but she has a brother and two nieces.”
Yes she was married many years ago but more importantly one or more homicidal maniac(s) killed her.
Now I know that the tragedy is in the fact that we live in a society where this act of murder is nearly a commonplace occurrence. The interest by the caller is one of curiosity and maybe some concern about the life of Ms. Chasen. We must also admit we as a society or just plain nosey. Yet I think about how we label classify and put value on lives by categorizing everything. Married, single, divorced who cares would the senseless crime of murder be any less senseless if she had a husband and children?
Is this how we now classify a persons life “married a long time ago.” Does that not mean that Ms. Chasen is divorced with a status of a divorcee and please can you tell me what constitutes a long time ago. Now I did not know Ms.Chasen however I am a publicist and for a publicist who was referred to as,” the doyenne of Hollywood publicist”, by the Los Angeles Times I am positive she would find that reference and error and an insult. I know I did.
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