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Thursday, February 24, 2011


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While I may not know you if you are reading this we are connected in ways I cannot defined. We live in a world that allows for connectivity. Yet for all of those wonder and advancements that allow for us to communicate with a person living half way around the world within the speed of light and sound none of this is of comfort for loneliness and uncertainty. Do not live with fear of being a single mom, a single dad or single all by yourself. Fear is a crippling emotion that blocks all progress. Rely on the principle of self reliance and take each moment and embrace yourself and Believe U are A Miracle. There is no shame of living single and being scared of loneliness. The shame is in continuing to live scared.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011


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Monday, February 14, 2011



It is not rocket science being Happy wether Single or Married.. It is a conscious choice to live your life Healthy and Happy.  Is it really that simple in a word YES! Can we all do it no not really. Are there steps to living your life HAPPY that are different for a MARRIED person?  YES can everyone take this steps yes but not everyone can live the steps.

Check out the profiles of four people in the LifeStyle Magazine Cincinnati written by Bob 5chw4r7Z.  Each of the talented people profile live their lives as Single in a conservative city where marriage is the expected norm.



Tuesday, February 8, 2011


It does not should not have to be Valentine Day a day obviously created by the Hallmark Cards, people, Teleflora and every candy company this side of heaven. That's right Godiva Chocolate, Russell Stovers, Sees and Hershey I am taking about all of you.  However I am proponent of treating yourself well everyday in all aspects as much as your purse or wallet can afford within a budget of course. 

I can help you with that.

Going through a divorce treat yourself special daily.  Start with a Massage
Happy in Love treat her to massage.  Happy in Love treat him and yourself.
Married and Miserable don't get a divorce, get counseling and a massage.
Single, Sexy and Solo treat yourself to a massage. No need to get your Sexy Back you never lost it.
Divorced and Dating treat yourself to a massage no time like the present to celebrate life.
Single and Pregnant oh you so need to treat yourself to every luxury in life because once you are BLESSED with your child try as you might it will be all about the BABY
Single Mother dating get your swerve on and start with a massage

Remember living Scared Single is not about being afraid just smart enough to be Scared Smart into making good and healthy choices for your life.

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Monday, February 7, 2011

Would you date a married man if he was legally separated?

Dating is difficult no mater how you slice it or dice it.  Do you complicate it by dating a man who is legally separated?  Do you date a woman who is legally separated with no end in sight to a legal and final divorce.

What would make dating a married person who lives separate from their spouse an okay situation.  Would it be okay if they were newly separated and getting a divorce was a definite? If there are children living in the home do you let them know that while the mom or date are divorcing each parent has a right to date other people.

Naomi Campbell Supermodel has been dating her Russian Billionaire boyfriend Vladislav Doronin for over three years.  He appeared with Naomi along with her mother Valerie Campbell on the Oprah Winfrey Show in 2010.  Doronin is handsome, by all accounts a doting father to his daughter Katia albeit lives a separate but still involved life with his wife, Ekaterina.  Did I forget to mention he is handsome and a Billionaire and attentive to Naomi.

When Oprah referred to his marital status he was emphatic that he has been separated for over 10 years.  How long does it take to finalize a divorce in Russia?

Naomi and her mother Valerie Campbell

So perhaps I should restate my question. Would you date a married man who is separated if he was a Russian Billionaire whose name is Vladislav Doronin?

Well not saying anything I guess if you look like Naomi does on the cover of  GQ March 2011 Cover some of the rules that affect 99% of the population simply do not apply!

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Do Single Women watch Sports? (SuperBowl XLV and women)

For nearly two weeks I have been listening, watching and reading about women, the Superbowl and the men they love and how the men they love, love football.  If what I have read, heard and seen is accurate it appears that sometimes that these same men love the Superbowl game more than the women who love them. 

Now this is a subject that has never been a topic of discussion in my home nor in my relationships. In many if not most of my past relationships I know as much or more than the men I have dated. Of course I am referring to Sports.   This fact is no surprise given the fact that for most of my life sports as a pastime, passion and profession have been a major part of my life.

However obviously whoever believes the notion that women and sports are exclusively whether than inclusive are simply how do I say ‘off their rocker.’

I could quote fact and stats but what good would that do.  Trust me women enjoy every tick of the clock on game day, every throw of the flag, every first down and goal line stance.
What we do not like about the sport of football is that the Superbowl very seldom lives up to the hype and the commercials and who sings the national anthem and performs the half-time show become the story and not the footnote.

So fellas just for your Information the SuperBowl XLV will be held Sunday February 6, 2011 – 6:30 pm ET on Fox between the Pittsburgh Steelers and the Green Bay Packers at the new monstrosity Cowboys Stadium in Arlington Texas. 

When I read these inane stories written by men of course about women not liking football I am happy to be scared single watching the game on my own tv in my favorite chair controlling the remote.  NOW WHAT?

Thursday, February 3, 2011



So you think you should be loyal to your bank…WHY? Are they loyal to you?  When they raise bank fees do they call you and say, “hey you are our number one loyal customer so just for you we are not raising your fees. Or better yet, "NO MORE BANK FEES for you and only you.”  What about,”hey we know you are having a hard month here is an extra $50.00 for being a loyal customer.” 

Do any of the above pertain to your banking relationship?

There are alternatives!  Do yourself a favor…check out all your options…and as always I do not endorse any company however I do endorse the notion that “knowledge and information is the key to financial freedom,”

With that in mind here are a few suggestions:

Smaller Bank
Credit Union
Online Bank
Or ING no checking fees
Allied Bank No Checking / ATM fees, MINIMUM BALANCE