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Friday, August 19, 2011

                           TO SNOOP or NOT TO SNOOP?

I am often asked about the act of snooping when it comes to dating. My first thought is “if you look you will find.” But once you find the good and the bad what will you do?  I really do not know one guy or girl oh wait my ex did not snoop with his ex but then again he found out later he truly did not know anything about her.  Ok be that as it may we are talking about you and your snooping. 

Snooping is not endorsed nor is it right well 99.9 % of the time it is wrong, wrong and just wrong. However there is that 00.1% when I would be lying to you if I thought it was not justified. Would I tell you to do it?  The Christian evolved woman says stay away from snooping but yes I must admit I have snooped. It is not the norm for me but the time I did snoop my suspicions were 10000% accurate.

To snoop or not to snoop is a debate that can go on to the end of time yet the bottom line is if you are involved with a man or woman that gives you cause to be afraid or suspicious you need to first examine yourself. Determine and be honest with yourself if it is your own paranoia or lack of self -esteem and if not. If the person you are involved with gives you cause not to trust them than you should run like Forrest Gump in the opposite direction.

So ask yourself before you snoop.....
I think my girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating.
I know my girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating.
I saw my girlfriend or boyfriend cheating.
Now what am I going to do?
I think my girlfriend or boyfriend has a deviant life that they are hiding.  (you define deviant)
Now what are you going to do?

The list goes on and on but the bottom line is once you confront he or she are you prepared to take action?

I am going to leave you with I said in the beginning of this post if you look you will find. You may find something totally unrelated to your initial thoughts which can either break or save your relationship.  But before you go snooping, do yourself a favor.  Go a full length mirror and look at yourself top to bottom, bottom to too. Take your hand pull out your pointer finger and point it at yourself. Now look at the three fingers pointing back at you.  

If you still have a hankering to snoop..than have at it, You deserve exactly what you will find. I know I did.  However in my case SNOOPING saved my life.

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